(check)Mate

Doing an MBA entails giving up on a lot of things and making multiple sacrifices on  many levels. There’s the opportunity cost of doing an MBA, the strained relationships, the stress of the job-hunt, the lost hours of sleep, the insane studying, the loss of hair in trying to raise money for tuitions, etc. The list goes on for quite a bit.

Somewhere along the way, students make up for all these losses through the networking, the parties, the brand-name chip on the shoulder, the joining of an ultra-elite league, landing that PE job with Blackstone or that consulting gig with M/B/B. However, all these gains can never make up for the biggest loss of them all; old friends.

In the middle of this insane rat-race, I know a few MBAs who’ve forgotten their old friends. They’ve forgotten the days when as mates they climbed mountains together; as mates they consoled and comforted one another in times of bereavement; as mates they crashed together in motorbike accidents; as mates they cursed b-school apps together; as mates they consoled one another through broken relationships; as mates they saved each other’s relationship from self-destructing; as mates they called one another wherever they were in the world, just to say hi; as mates they would write e-mails to one another like a Skype conversation.

Whatever happened to those simpler times when there were no thoughts of an MBA or any other ego-bloating degree or activity in the mind? When will the realization dawn that an MBA will come and go? When will the understanding come that all that networking was, but, for a short while? When will that clarity shine through that b-school’s nothing but a bubble, and that after it bursts with a loud bang, it’s the old mates who will still be around? It is not unjustly said that MBAs lack heart and soul. When the shit does hit the fan, and realization finally dawns, it’s usually too late. Too much time would have passed and the hurt wounds of old mates would have become hard shields and they would have given up and moved on in life.

But, who am I to talk right? I’m just another MBA after all.

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6 Responses

  1. Interesting post. Such questions often come to me..were I less intelligent, less competitive I would probably be more easily satisfied and consequently happier.

  2. Very well put. Your blog echoes several thoughts and experiences of other MBA students such as myself. Keep up the good work.

    Fellow INSEADer at FB, class of DEC 2010

    Dejavu

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